She admits that the initial days of a new placement can be challenging. "That first week, I’m always complaining, like 'oh my goodness', but by the end of the week, I’m crying when they’re leaving." Her key piece of advice to other carers is simple: "Give kids a chance. It may be difficult during the first or second week, but give it time. Be firm but approachable, and they’ll come to you. Things settle after a couple of weeks."

Saatia has also learned that children in care often have unconditional love. "Young children forgive easily; they don’t hold grudges." She stresses the importance of understanding that each child comes from a different family background. "Don’t compare them to your own children. Every child is different, and their experiences shape who they are."

The decision to foster has been transformative for Saatia’s family. "Fostering has been a magnificent experience. It’s brought us a lot of joy and fun times". The challenges have made her and her family better people. "We’re always learning with each new placement," she says, acknowledging that each child brings a new lesson.

When asked what advice she would give to someone considering foster care, Saatia’s message is clear: "Give it a go. Open that door. There are no regrets, and you can always pause or leave if it’s not a good fit." She encourages prospective carers to ask questions, even if they seem small. "Sometimes agencies don’t disclose everything upfront, so it’s important to ask. Having a lot of information is better than too little."

Maintaining an external support system has been key to Saatia’s ability to navigate the challenges of foster care. Whether reaching out to the Foster Care Association of Victoria (FCAV), friends, or family, she leans on a strong network. "Having a good solid friendship group and family support is crucial."

Despite the challenges, what keeps Saatia motivated is the joy she gets from fostering. "It makes me feel good. Whether this is selfish or not, I feel good, I enjoy it, and I feel part of the community." She views fostering as a way to pay it forward, having been given many opportunities in her own life.

When conflicts arise, Saatia is committed to resolution. "If there’s a disagreement or misunderstanding, I sit everyone down to talk about it. I want to ensure that no grudges are held, and everyone moves forward."

Though she finds fostering incredibly rewarding, Saatia believes there are improvements to be made in the system. "I would love for carers to be more trusted and heard. We are listened to but often ignored." She calls for carers to be more involved in decision-making processes, working alongside agencies and the Department of Families, Fairness and Housing (DFFH) as team members. "We get asked for feedback, but nothing is taken into account. Even if our suggestions can’t be implemented, I’d appreciate being told why."

“Don’t Forget the Teenagers!”

Saatia has also fostered teenagers, which she describes as a "lovely experience." Initially, she had only wanted to care for younger children, but she eventually welcomed teens into her home. "Don’t forget the teenagers".

"They are just as wonderful and might need a foster carer’s support more than we realise. The teens I’ve had have been polite, respectful, and a joy to care for."

Saatia Khuong’s foster care journey is a testament to the power of compassion and patience. Her story reflects not only her deep commitment to making a difference in the lives of children but also her desire for a foster care system that values and supports its carers so they can support the children and teens in their care.